Tech Sergeant Jenn

nudityandnerdery:

Or, you know, talk to her about what she likes. And what you like. Because that’s important, and maybe she’s got a history that might mean that you just assuming she wants to be manhandled is going to cause her some trauma.

This shows up on my dash every so often, and it annoys me every goddamn time. Some ladies like being manhandled. That’s excellent. Some ladies like to be babied. That’s also excellent. But while some will tell you if you’re being too rough, some might not. She might get very, very, very fucking uncomfortable if you assume that she wants it rough. Too uncomfortable to say no. And what would you call it when a girl wants to say no, but is too scared to because a guy has already started showing off how he’s stronger than her in bed? 

This isn’t even a Dom thing. This is about being a decent human being in the bedroom: Communicate. Don’t fucking assume.

Reasons why I love and adore Devin. See above.